Sure You Don’t.

There is, right now, a tooth under Number One Son’s pillow.  He showed it to me this morning, and explained that he needed to put it under his pillow tonight, “even though there’s no Tooth Fairy.” 

“No Tooth Fairy?” I asked, as innocent as a Big Ugly Man Doll can be.  Mind you, he’s 10, and there won’t be too many more teeth coming out of his head.

“No, Daddy, there’s no such thing as the Tooth Fairy, just like there’s no such thing as Santa Claus.”

“No Santa Cla – wait a minute, if there’s no Tooth Fairy, then why exactly are you planning to put the tooth under your pillow?”

“So you’ll give me money for it.”

Riiiiiiiiiight.  The idea that you could just hand me the tooth and I’d give you a buck *never* crossed your mind, did it?  You’re far too old, too analytical, and too wise to believe in anything as silly as the Tooth Fairy.  You don’t believe in anything silly like that. 

But that molar’s still under your pillow. 

And I’m still going to wait until you’re sleeping, my little scientist.

A Farewell to Zero

Wikipedia will tell you that Zero is both a number and the numerical digit used to represent that number.  I say otherwise. 

Zero’s a Hero.

For the past several years, the local Assistant Principal, Ms. Passentino, has brought humor, energy, and joy to the K-3 classes that each of the kids attended.  On the 10th, 20th, and 30th of any given month, the usual Kiss-n-Ride staff has been augmented by a genuine, cape-wearing, masked superhero with a huge circle on her chest – Zero the Hero. 

On off days, Ms. Passentino resolutely refuses to admit any knowledge of any such “Zero” person.  When confronted by an adamant 6-yr-old, she pulls a straight-faced Clark Kent:  “I don’t know WHAT you’re talking about!”  (This will still send the Reigning Queen of Pink into hysterical giggles.)  Zero the Hero doesn’t just work Kiss-n-Ride, either – she roams the halls and classrooms, looking for aught to point out, seeking new ways to show young minds how nothing can really be something.  Making something out of nothing is a good way to describe the magic of how she helps to teach these kids every day.

I found out yesterday that our hero has to move – there are people who really need her, and like all real heroes, she’s going.  It has been my pleasure and honor to have been a small part of this education community with her for these past few years – all three kids have fond memories of Zero the Hero, and Number One Son’s life has been directly changed for the better by her kind words, understanding ear, and watchful eye. 

Hundreds of days have been brightened just by hearing her whistle while parked in the line at Kiss-n-Ride – she can whistle up the devil and send him packing again – and by watching her comedy act played next to the principal’s straight routine.  The two of them are priceless; a modern Laurel and Hardy, except, you know, they’re women, and thin, and don’t wear hats.  They’d make a great comedy act if they ever decide to leave education.  (Don’t get any ideas, Ms. Skerker – we can’t lose both of you!) 

So, fair skies and following winds, Zero the Hero.  The hearts and minds you’ve touched at this school are all wishing you the best as you move on to your next Hero role.   

And Nothing won’t be the same without you.

ManFAQ Friday: The Workout

It’s Friday, and that means answer time! For those of you who have commented with questions from previous ManFAQs, thank you. I’m adding yours to the list of questions women have asked about men over the years, and I will answer them all in turn – to continue to demystify the more malodorous gender for those of the gentler.  Actual questions, posed by real women, and answered by a REAL man. What could go wrong?


Question:  Why do men hold their penises when they are just sitting around, watching TV, etc.?

Answer:   Strength training.  Also, mostly we do that if there’s no beer.  If you bring him a beer, he’ll probably let go long enough to hold that instead.


Now you know. Please, feel free to comment with any questions you’d like answered!

Strong Coffee = Strong Passwords?

When I was a much younger Man Doll, SOBUMD and I ran a web-hosting company, because we’re geeks like that.  We had clients and everything.  Now, after learning a lot about starting – and stopping – a business, we have one client left.  Ironically, she was also our first client, and I continue to maintain her website because she’s become a dear friend.  (Also, she pays us regularly, which while nice is no longer the primary motivation.)

Last night, I went to her house to review things she needed to review with me, which after more than 10 years has become something of a tradition:  I come over 2-3 times a year, in the evening after work, and she makes Coffee.  The capital letter there is required to convey the true meaning of the drink that she pours me, which is to the pansy-assed, weak-kneed, undercaffeinated bilgewater you can buy at Starbucks as the lightning, to steal from Twain, is to the lightning bug.

Have you ever seen a ceramic coffee mug cringe in fear as you walk toward it?

Last night was an even more rare treat.  To put this in some further context, my client is in her late 70s – she can see 80 without getting on her tiptoes.  So you can imagine the dual reactions of terror and horrified anticipation fighting in my sub-cortex when I heard her say, “Well, the percolator I usually use seems to be broken – it was my mother’s.  So I have to use the Old One.”

Now, you know the ‘usual’ one has to be from the 50s – all modern, with plugs and stuff.   It turns out the “old one” is a big ceramic sucker that goes on top of the stove – it’s probably 80 years old, and it’s gorgeous.  It also percolates coffee until you take it off the stove.

Assuming you would want to take it off the stove.   Someday.

“Well, this is the Columbian coffee, from you-know-who.”  No, not Juan Valdez, but it took me a second, too.  She was talking about the handyman she uses for all jobs big and small, and who tends to hand-carry coffee back from Columbia for his friends when he goes home on vacation.

So now we have really good, hard-core coffee, being percolated to within an inch of my life.  Did I mention that it’s around 7:30pm?  Right.   (“Why no, I haven’t slept yet.  Why do you ask?”)

The best part of the evening, though, was talking to her about password strength.  You can probably imagine my concern at the words, “Well, I heard that you should use long phrases as passwords, so I’ve been changing a bunch of my passwords.”   I mentioned that passwords were great things to strengthen, as long as they were memorable.   (For the record, I consider this somewhere between ‘concern’ and ‘self-defense’ on my part.)

And here was highlighted for me one of the biggest differences in working with people of different generations.   What would you, Gentle Reader, choose as a password phrase that you will remember, and cheerfully type into some widget several times a day?  Some spit of doggerel?  Some random quote or line of favorite poem, or cool concatenation of names of wives and kids and cats and kits?  Yes?

How about the epitaph that you’ve already had engraved on the headstone you’ve already had commissioned for the cemetery plot you bought yourself last year?   “No, I guess that’s probably not something you’re going to just up and forget next week, is it?”

Because that’s what I want to be typing in all day.  Talk about always looking on the bright side of life.  Cheerfully whistling in the dark, that’s her.  And my hat’s off to her, I’ll tell you that.   Mind you, with that coffee, she’s unlikely to need the plot anytime soon – I mean, she might pass into the Great Beyond, but I doubt it would slow her down any.

Bragging About My Dad

Because it’s unseemly to brag too often about my massive ego, which other than this shiny blog is the only thing about me, personnally, worth noting, so I tend to talk about the kids and whatnot.
 
So, the other day I had a great conversation about my father, talking to a friend at work about getting older. 
 
Friend:   My Dad ran the Army 10-Miler last weekend.
BUMD:   Hey, so did mine!
Friend:  How old is he?
BUMD:  Just turned 67! 
Friend:  Mine’s 75. 
BUMD:  That’s amazing!
Friend:  Yeah, well.  Did your dad *know* he was running the Army 10-Miler?
BUMD:  Yessss…
Friend:  Yeah, well.  Mine didn’t.  Ran pretty well, though, seemed to enjoy it.  Had to have someone running with him to keep him on course…
 
But seriously, running 10 miles?  I asked my father if he’d won, after the race.  The answer was both yes and no – he didn’t cross the finish line first, but he met his personal goal, which he listed as “crossing the finish line at all.” 
This, now, I can relate to.  We all have goals.  Mine are more along the lines of “still being on this side of the dirt” when I’m 67 years old – actually running over that dirt would be gravy. 
 
Mmm, gravy.  Now I’m hungry.  But anyway, congrats to my dad and all the rest of the folks I know who ran last weekend!