On Being the Best Person

20 February, 2014 | | 3 Comments
The Happy Couple, on the Books!

The Happy Couple, on the Books!

I was in a wedding this morning!  I was all atwitter, aflutter, and excited – and honored beyond words that I’d been asked to stand up for my friend’s wedding, as her best person.  My friend Brenda and her fiancé Darla finally tied the knot.  I met them at the courthouse with the rest of the wedding party, handed the right ring to the right bride, and watched as two people in love became one couple in the eyes of the law.

As Brenda and Dar get married, as Brenda’s best person and having been married for half my life, I thought I’d say a few things about marriage.   Mind you, I also met Brenda more than half my life ago, when we worked together at the US Postal Service, and so I will tell you that marriage is like mailing a first class letter.

On the inside is a secret message, just for the two of you.  Everyone knows that!  But on the outside, there is still some very important information.  It tells you about where you’re from, and about where you’re going.  There’s no superfluous data on an envelope.  Just as in marriage, everything – even the small things – are important.

Plus, there’s trust involved in mailing a letter, just like there is in a marriage.  When you put your stamp on the envelope, you’re trusting the post office to deliver your message – and as Brenda can tell you, they will.  That stamp is a 49-cent contract that they will deliver:  through rain and through snow, in  sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer.  That stamp is the government seal of approval for your letter.

So congratulations to Brenda and Dar today, not just on getting married, but for persevering long enough for our government to realize that everyone deserves a stamp!  I am glad and grateful to have been a part of their day.

To the happy couple!



  1. K.B. Owen says:

    Doug, I love this – what a perfect metaphor! I’m so glad you were there to be Best Person.


  2. Sara says:

    this is great – !

  3. Diane Henders says:

    Great post! (Postage…?) And congrats to Brenda and Dar! :-)

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